There’s nothing quite like our emotions movie Hannah. Our feelings don’t make us who we are, but they can shape the way we react to people around us.
On any given day you’ll experience varying degrees of happiness, sadness, excitement, fear and anger, and knowing how to manage them is an a vital key to maintaining relationships and your profession. When it comes to emotions that need controlling, anger tops the list, so let’s take a look ways you can calm yourself – without hitting someone in the face with a coffee mug.
- Breathe. No jokes, breathing really does help. And it’s not just good for anger – you can use it to help quell anxiety as well. A simple breathing exercise is to take a long, deep breath, hold it in for 5 seconds and then release. Repeat this 5 times, or until you feel calmer.
- Talk about it. Do you have a trusted colleague, friend or family member? Speak to them. Confiding in people about your emotions will release some tension and make you feel better. Like lifting a weight off your back. They might also be able to give you some advice on how to tackle the problem.
- Avoid the person that pushes your buttons. Some people enjoy making others angry, without thinking twice about the consequence. The way to deal with these people is to either ignore them completely (as hard as it sounds) or to be nice to them. ‘Kill them with kindness’, as they say. Never let the person get to you – it’s the only way to avert the anger.
- Exercise. Working your body allows you to work off your frustrations. Joining a kickboxing or boxing class also allows you to release some of your aggression by hitting a punching bag. It’s primal, but sometimes the best way to deal with anger is to channel it into something good, like exercise.