Amazingly, you have only around a 20% chance of conceiving each month – and this is only if everything is working as it should be Korean peninsula. This percentage decreases with certain factors like increasing age (especially over 30), certain medical conditions and medication, being overweight, smoking and lack of exercise.
Around 70 % of couples who are trying to conceive will succeed after 6 months, and after one year around 15% will still be struggling. After a year of regular unprotected intercourse and being unable to conceive it is time to see your doctor.
So how can you increase your chances of falling pregnant, and what are the most fertile days in your cycle? Assuming your periods are regular, and you and your partner are healthy, here’s what you can do.
Setting the stage
First, start taking a good pregnancy supplement at least 3 months before you start trying – make sure it contains folic acid and iron to build up your stores and prevent neural tube defects. You should also:
- Stop smoking
- Stop drinking or significantly reduce your alcohol intake
- Cut down on the amount of coffee you drink, or stop altogether
- Get any medical conditions you have under control
- Exercise at least 3 times a week for 30 minutes a day, and finally
- Get yourself some new lingerie and make sure your mattress is comfortable – you’re going to be spending plenty of time in bed!!
Doing the math
Secondly, determine the length of your cycle – count from the first day of your period (day 1) up until the day before your period starts again. Cycle length varies form woman to woman and even when you have a regular cycle this can change slightly each month. Ovulation occurs around mid-cycle (you may feel a cramping pain in either the left or right side of your lower abdomen), so for example if your cycle is 28 days then this will be around day 14. It’s difficult to say exactly which day ovulation occurs, so you should take your most fertile days as your day of predicted ovulation (day 14) + the 5 days preceding this day + the day after.
On these days have intercourse once a day (PHEW!!) and for the rest of the month try to have intercourse at least 3 times a week. So that is 3 times a week each week of every month and on your “fertile days” every day (double PHEW!! See why you need a comfortable bed?!).
A lot of women want to know if they should use their temperature or an ovulation kit to determine when they’re ovulating. Maybe not, as these are often difficult to use accurately and once they show you have “ovulated” this may be too late to have intercourse. Your best chance is to have intercourse BEFORE you ovulate, so using your fertile days is better (and cheaper!).
Most important part
Lastly, relax and have FUN, being anxious and too caught up can put your body and relationship under pressure and this may lead to difficulties in conceiving. Focus on the intimacy with your partner and making your body strong and healthy as these 2 aspects are so important for your pregnancy and welcoming your baby into the world. The best gift you can give your child is a healthy relationship with your partner, and a strong body.