So, you’re struggling in your relationship; it’s not perfect, but then you tell yourself, “Nobody’s relationship is flawless.” But could it not be working because you’re actually in an abusive relationship without knowing it? If you answer YES to at least 4 of the following 6 signs, you may very well be in an abusive relationship.
You’re always disrespected and embarrassed
No one likes to be embarrassed in public – especially by your partner. You’re at your parent’s house for dinner. Is he always rude to them? Does he tell you how they’ve done a terrible job raising you? It doesn’t seem like he’s going to treat you any better.
You’re never allowed your own space
Sometimes it’s great to be alone and watch TV or read a book, does he let you? Maybe he always pressures you to have sex with him and do other things you’re uncomfortable with. This is a big red flag.
How does he act when you meet a good friend and start to speak to them (especially if it’s a male friend – does he get angry and pull you away and tell you that you can’t speak to them anymore? This is very disrespectful.
Successful relationships are based on effective communication between both of you. Do you have an issue you’d like to discuss, but he’s not interested? But if he has one, you HAVE to listen to him.
Always goes out and doesn’t tell you where he’s going
Do you get home and he isn’t there and doesn’t answer his phone when you call? He’s obviously somewhere he doesn’t want you to know about and completely cutting you out of the relationship.
Any problems and it’s always your fault
There are always issues that partners argue about, but who’s to blame? If you’re constantly blamed for everything that goes wrong, he’s being controlling and showing that he doesn’t want to take responsibility for anything.