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Love & Relationship
February 26, 2021

“It’s my right!” But are you hurting someone?

On 21 March, we will be celebrating Human Rights Day in South Africa. It is a time for us to reflect on our individual human rights, and – more importantly – to consider how we can support others to bring these ideas into reality. In other words, a reminder to embrace the spirit of “Ubuntu”, I am because you are. Archbishop Emeritus Desmond Tutu believes this is what defines us as a society: “We think of ourselves far too frequently as just individuals, separated from one another, whereas you are connected and what you do affects the whole world,” he…
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Love & Relationship
February 25, 2021

Say NO. And don’t feel bad about it

With just 2 letters to its name, the word NO is so simple and easy, yet it can be a surprisingly difficult word to say out loud. The truth is, saying NO does not have to be hard, or make you feel guilty, especially when you’re saying it for the sake of your health. No-one can argue that life isn’t overwhelming at the moment. In addition to worrying about COVID-19, there are all those other “normal” things that cause stress. The deadlines, the commitments, the financial worries, the family responsibilities… and the list goes on. If your plate is piled…
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Love & Relationship
February 25, 2021

Can you share your feelings, without hurting others?

As a human being, you are wired to have feelings. Expressing those feelings can have long lasting consequences to your relationships. Speaking out has the power to both deepen connection and improve meaningful communication, but can also create hurt, resentment and anger. Knowing how to express your feelings considerately is therefore essential for you to feel close to people, and vice versa. While no-one intentionally says or does anything to hurt someone else’s feelings, you are not in control of anyone else’s experience. It is for this reason you can never be sure of how they will feel or react.…
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Healthy LifestyleMental & Emotional Health
December 12, 2016

How to stop being a yes-man

You haven’t had a break all week and your colleague, who spends his time at work dozing off, says he has to leave early again. You want to keep the peace (as you always do), so you just grit your teeth and offer to finish his tasks. You may not see it, but there is a big difference between being a people pleaser and being a nice person. If you are a people pleaser, you will try to make and keep others happy, even at the cost of your own wellbeing. If you are a genuinely nice person, you can…
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